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The Forgotten Blessing: Giving Your Parents the Proper Treatment They Deserve

 بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
 In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.


Striving Muslimah




“Ali, please come downstairs and eat”, calls Haleema, his mother, for the third time. “In a minute MUM, I’m busy, you’re so difficult.. gosh.. just leave me alone!” followed with a loud slam of the door.

How many of us are guilty of this? It may not be the exact same words, but in some way we have all disrespected our parents, which they certainly do not deserve. Today’s youth have lost respect for their parents who worked so hard to raise them. It has become the “norm” to scream at our mothers. We make derogatory remarks and sometimes pretend like we cannot hear what they’re saying.

Just take a second to step back and reflect: the one who taught you how to walk, eat, speak – you consciously CHOOSE to ignore her?

Yet a mother’s unconditional love is like no other. No matter what her daughter or son says, she will call again. Do you know why? Not because she’s your enemy and out to “get you” or because she’s purposely trying to annoy you. It’s because she genuinely cares. She cares a whole lot, more than anyone will ever care.

When you were younger, she went hungry so you could have a full stomach. She didn’t buy anything for herself so she could spend on your toys, just to see you smile. She nursed you when you were ill, she took every blame for you to hide your faults. So why do you suddenly act like YOU are doing HER a favour by just standing in her existence? Seriously, are you for real?

Paradise is at the Feet of Mothers

You should instead be treating her like a queen and “kiss the very ground she walks on” for all the favours she’s done for you.

Subhan Allah – I don’t want to sugarcoat the reality because I’ve seen this happen with my own eyes, so don’t take offence to what I say. Unfortunately the truth is more bitter than it’s ever been. I’ve witnessed it – the endless worry and care of mothers for their children and the children’s utter disrespect and disregard for their mothers because, “It’s different now!” and “Ugh, you’ll never understand me”.

Why? Because they were never young so they obviously won’t “get you”?

This injustice is done not only to mothers but fathers too. Sometimes children become so arrogant and enveloped in their selfishness that when their parents speak to them in their native language they cleverly reply with English slang terms in attempt to humiliate their parents. I ask you today to contemplate on this. With the high status Allah (glorified and exalted be He) has given to our parents, do we even pay them an ounce of the value they are worthy of?

Here’s What You Need to Stop Doing 


Stop raising your voice
“Say not to them [so much as], ‘uff,’” [Qur'an: Chapter 17, Verse 23]. What a profound statement from the Qur’an. We should not even sigh heavily, let alone raise our voices. When your parents raise their voice at you, 9 out of 10 times they have a very good reason to do so. Don’t let shaytan fuel your anger and ego, causing you to react totally inappropriately. Stop, listen, agree and apologise – thereafter rectify your mistake, even if you think you’re right and they’re being unjust.

Stop ignoring them
 So you’re out with your friends and suddenly you see a call from “Home”. Automatically you dismiss the call. Why? Don’t want to disturb the good time you’re having with your friends, or are you embarrassed to speak to your mum and dad?Remember when you were five years old, and you decided to throw a tantrum in the middle of a supermarket? Don’t you think you embarrassed your mum then? She didn’t decide to abandon you, did she? Because at the end of the day, you’re her child and no matter what you do, she will never ever be embarrassed of you. You owe a hell of a lot to your parents.So pick up that call, and politely answer their questions. Better yet, call them a few times while you’re out. It won’t kill you – you have countless minutes to spend on your friends. So spare a few minutes on your parents and spare them imagining all sorts of horrific scenarios in their minds when you don’t pick up!

Stop thinking you’re always right
 This, for me, is one of the most loathed characteristics. Think about it logically – how much worldly experience do your parents have compared to you? Making sense yet? When discussing things with parents, remember never to reject their opinions. Believe it or not, they were young once and also made mistakes, probably the same mistake you’re about to make now, which is why they are advising against it.As the Romanian proverb goes, “Only the foolish learn from experience; the wise learn from the experience of others.” So take advantage of their knowledge, experience and wisdom that you haven’t developed yet. So next time, instead of rolling your eyes and saying, “Yeah yeah, whatever”, listen – really listen. Take it in and act upon it. You can thank them in the process too.

Here’s What You Need to Start Doing 

Start showing some gratitude
This follows on from my last point. It won’t harm you to express a word of gratitude once in a while. After all, they did clean your nappies. Parents have “bad” days too, they’re human too. And they need someone to brighten up their day at times. So be that ray of light at the end of a long day. Say “thank you”, make them smile, hug them, buy them a gift.Do this randomly and they’ll be so pleasantly surprised that the smile you put on their face won’t disappear for a long time. It’s not easy being a parent, and sometimes you think you’ve done it all wrong. By expressing some love, they’ll be reassured that they must have done something right for you to behave in such a way.

Start going out of your way to please them
If anyone on earth deserves this, it’s them. Not your friends or even your spouse, it’s your parents. Allah (glorified and exalted be He) has granted them such a high position; how can you treat them any less? Offer to help out in any way possible. Do extra tasks, massage their feet, drive them around whenever they need, help with the cooking, anything and everything which you would never do for anyone else and have to make an extra effort to do – DO IT.

Start making sincere dua for them
Every child knows that their parents mention them in every dua. Your parents wish nothing but well for you. They pray for your success. It’s time for you to replicate the favour. Pray for their wellbeing, pray for their forgiveness, pray for Jannah for them, and most importantly thank Allah (glorified and exalted be He) for them. Make this a habit in every salah. Before you mention yourself, mention them.

Make Your Parents Proud

Evidently these points are general and there are loads more that could be mentioned, but I’ve just listed the things I have personally observed to be an issue. At the end of the day, pleasing your parents will please Allah (glorified and exalted be He), there is no one on earth who deserves your mercy and compassion more than your parents.

Do them proud. If they’re happy, you’ll also be happy, and by treating them well you increase your good deeds. Lastly, never ever disrespect them. On that note, I leave you with this verse from the Qur’an:

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], ‘uff,’ [i.e., an expression of irritation or disapproval] and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, ‘My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.’” [Qur'an: Chapter 17, Verses 23-24]

May Allah (glorified and exalted be He) allow us to be kind, compassionate and caring towards our parents and earn their love, not their anger.



About the Author:

A 23-year-old IT consultant by profession but a “Striving Muslimah” by heart. Currently undergoing a career change, Striving Muslimah is pursuing primary teaching with children who are less able. She is an avid baker, a self confessed geek, and a firm believer in the proverb “wherever there is a human in need, there is an opportunity for kindness and to make a difference”.

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 بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
 In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
 
MashaAllah a very interesting article I read here 
Even though the author had written it in the form of a fiction,
it really made me reflect on it, how true it is......  

 
 By Humaira Khan

A Short Story
She hated him when they had disagreements. Adil was a great husband and father—most of the time. He was caring and loving and he helped her with her household chores. He loved the children—he fed them, woke up in the middle of the night to help her put the little one to sleep, and changed their diapers. But sometimes he could be extremely unreasonable and would lose his temper at the slightest provocation.

Like tonight.

Earlier in the evening, she had been running late to get dinner ready because the children were not giving her a break; they were all irritable. She wished Adil would help watch them so that she could get the cooking done, but he was on the phone.
“Okay, enough out of you two!” she said out loud, hoping Adil would hear her.
But five whole minutes passed and he didn’t come.
She found herself getting more and more frustrated. Why wasn’t he coming? How was she supposed to handle two crying children AND cook the food?!
A few minutes later, Adil strolled into the living room.
“That was Abdullah. He is in the area and wanted to know if I could go to the masjid with him for Maghrib¹ and play cricket afterwards. What do you think?”
“Whatever you want,” said Aisha, as she tried to clean up the mess in the living room. The children had quieted down and were busy eating sandwiches.
“Are you sure?” Adil didn’t seem to notice that she didn’t exactly approve of the plan.
“Yeah,” she said, carefully avoiding eye contact with him.
“Okay, but call me if you need anything.”
“What about dinner?”
“I’ll eat when I come back insha’Allah² !”
His smile was dazzling. Countless times, she had gazed at him as he smiled and thought how lucky she was to have a man like him. But this was not one of those moments.
His phone started ringing. It was Abdullah again.
“You sure you will be okay?” Adil asked Aisha.
She nodded.
He hugged them all and left with Abdullah.
Three hours later, Aisha was exhausted. The children had taken forever to sleep and she hadn’t had a break since morning. When Adil came home, she didn’t even feel like talking to him. When he tried to get her to tell him why she was upset, her reply was short and curt. Adil was furious! Why had she let him go with Abdullah in the first place if she didn’t want him to?!
A huge argument followed and Adil stormed out of the room! Aisha was seething in anger. How she hated him!
She sat rocking furiously back and forth on the glider, angry thoughts racing through her head.

How she ended up thinking of Mariam just then, she didn’t know. But her mind went back to a conversation with her best friend almost twenty years ago.
She had been sitting alone on the bench in the college courtyard, brooding, when she was startled by someone’s hand on her shoulder.
She swung around only to come face to face with Mariam. In her, Aisha had found the only person who understood her.
Mariam sat down next to her.
“Why are you sitting all alone over here, Aisha?”
“Nothing. Same old story.”
“Oh. What happened?”
“Just this girl I thought I was getting along really well with. She said something I didn’t like.”
Mariam waited for her to continue. She knew better than to interrupt when Aisha was agitated.
“I don’t understand why these things happen to me, Mariam! I mean, what did I ever do to all these people that they feel they need to be mean to me!”
“Well, what did that girl say to you?”
“I don’t remember exactly, but something about how she didn’t know I was out of town last week. She said she didn’t realize I wasn’t around because she never sees me outside of the classroom or at any events here anyway, and that it was only when someone else mentioned that I had gone to California to visit my sick aunt, that she found out I was away!”
“Poor choice of words, I agree, but—”
Aisha interrupted her: “Well, who is she to go around drawing conclusions about someone she doesn’t know! What does she know about what events I like or don’t like to attend! I wish I could think of the right thing to say when it’s needed and not later when the moment’s gone!”
“So what would you have liked to say to her?”
“I would have told her the truth, of course! That I attend all the events or parties that I am invited to. But that I cannot be there at events I haven’t received an invitation for.”
She was biting her lip.
“But why is that so important for you to clarify?” Mariam asked gently.
Aisha looked up. What was Mariam saying? Her own confused look met Mariam’s steady gaze.
“Why shouldn’t it be important?” she said, almost defensively.
“What I am asking is why do you think correcting someone’s opinion about you is so important? Do you think you can tell me in concrete terms why some acquaintance’s incorrect opinion of you is bothering you so much?”
Aisha was silent. Mariam’s question was important. Why WAS it bothering her so much? And why was she so bent on correcting it?
“I guess I want people to not misunderstand me and not make a monster out of me when I’m really not one?” Her answer wasn’t making much sense to herself either. When stated plainly, it really didn’t seem like it had been that big of an issue to begin with!
“Exactly!” Mariam’s response was a second too fast.
Aisha smiled inadvertently. “You know something I don’t, right?” she said, somewhat relieved to find herself smiling in this situation.
“How many times did you just use the words “I” or “me” in that last sentence?”
“What does that have to do with anything?!” She wished Mariam wouldn’t speak in riddles!
“Does someone else’s bad opinion of you make you a bad person? Obviously not, right? So why should that opinion be so important that it assumes center stage in your life? People have the option to find out the truth, be polite, not jump to conclusions about others but they also have the option not to. What they choose defines who THEY are, not who YOU are.”
Aisha had a look of admiration on her face. Mariam truly had the gift of eloquence!
Mariam continued: “But even that’s not what I am trying to point out to you. Sometimes we have problems not because others are judging us or misunderstanding us but because we are so focused on ourselves that everything else is diminutive in comparison. We then become more important to ourselves than even Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) and that’s where our problems begin.
“So, for example, when someone gives us an odd look, we want to know why and spend hours in agony trying to find out what’s wrong. Or when somebody disagrees with us, we find ourselves infuriated. Or when our mom tells us to do something when we are busy, we get frustrated because we, our work, our time, is more important than everything else! And when we are more important to ourselves than anybody else, our relationships are affected too, by the way we respond to what others say and do. What they say or do is not judged by its own merit, but in terms of how they say or do those things TO US! Does that make sense?”
“Yeah,” Aisha said slowly. She was staring past Mariam at some distant point, her brow wrinkled as she let that explanation sink in. Mariam was right. Aisha realized she did judge everything and everyone in terms of how those things or those people affected her. But wasn’t that how everyone else saw things too? What other point-of-view could she see things from, if not her own?
Mariam said: “I struggle with this self-centeredness, too, you know. All the time! I have to constantly remind myself!”
It seemed incredulous to Aisha that Mariam, whose understanding of the issue seemed so clear, could be struggling with it as she said.
But Mariam was speaking again: “Yes, that’s right. I struggle with this all the time! Every time I find myself getting frustrated, I know my focus is me! I know then that I need to stop making myself the center of the universe!”
“But I don’t understand! If you don’t let yourself judge things based on how they affect you, wouldn’t you be leaving yourself vulnerable to oppression?” Aisha finally managed to convey her confusion in concrete terms.
“Actually, if you are not so focused on yourself, you’ll be able to see things more clearly and deal with them more sensibly than if all you can see is you!”
Mariam’s explanation made complete sense.

It had been twenty years since she had had that conversation yet she hadn’t forgotten it. Like Mariam, she too found herself struggling to live it. Every time she found herself getting angry at her children, or mad at her husband, or frustrated with people in general, she realized that it was time for her to remind herself to stop focusing only on herself.
If her son wanted to go the bathroom one more time or her daughter wanted her to play with her just as she was trying to get dinner ready, was it their fault? If she was getting frustrated, it was because she was thinking, “Why can’t they let me do what I want to do at this time?!”
If her husband went to sleep early one day in a month because he had had a tiring day at work, she would be angry with him. “Is my day not tiring?” she would think.
If her mother-in-law didn’t appreciate her, she would be depressed and unhappy. “Why doesn’t she see my good qualities?” would be the thought in her head.
Of course this wasn’t just the case when things weren’t going well. She realized that she was happy when people praised her or spoke nicely to her. It didn’t matter whether they were right or wrong about her then; the only thing that mattered was their approval.
Mariam had been right. It was when her “self” assumed central importance in her own life, over and above everything and everyone else, that her problems really began.
Aisha took a deep breath. She realized that the issue could have been better resolved had her entire focus not been on herself alone, even if her husband’s had been on himself. If only she had let it go at that moment and not made it a matter of ego, saying, “How dare he do / say this to me!”
If she had not lost her temper then, he would have felt bad at his own conduct. And when things had calmed down, she would have had every opportunity to let him know how she felt when he had raised his voice at her. Who could he have blamed then, except himself?
Slowly, she rose from her chair. She knew what she had to do but she hesitated. Apologizing was not about lowering oneself, as she had once thought, but about admitting one’s mistake. And she had made a mistake.

It was time to repair her relationships.
She walked to the door, hesitated again, but then bravely left her room to find Adil. If he had been unreasonable, she had been unreasonable too.
Somebody needed to take that first step to put an end to such situations. And the first to do so would earn the most reward, she thought.
Besides, their relationship was worth saving. Little issues like this could assume larger-than-life proportions if not dealt with sensibly, and she didn’t want such things to stand between her and Adil.
She was sure he was sitting in the living room staring into space. She paused in the hallway as she caught sight of him doing just that. A smile escaped her. He was a good man. Sometimes she couldn’t understand how she could be so upset with him.
She glanced at the mirror hanging on the wall next to her but a thought struck her as she looked. For the next few seconds, she stared at her own reflection, thinking that this was the person who was at the center of her little universe. It didn’t seem right.
She looked towards Adil again and was surprised to find him looking at her. As she walked towards him, he stood up. Leading her by the hand, he made her sit next to him on the sofa.
Before she could say anything though, he looked straight at her and said, “I’m sorry, Aisha. I should not have spoken to you like that.”
“No, I’m sorry.” Aisha’s eyes were full of tears.
She had to explain to him how she felt and he was ready to listen, all night if he had to.

Mothers behind the Stars

Mothers Behind the Stars
By Mufti Muhammad Ibn Adam al-Kawthari

In this lecture Shaykh talks about the role of a Mother in the upbringing of
her children. Indeed "behind every successful man, is the hand of a woman",
if we look at the great scholars of the past their mothers play a very
important role.

Sibling Rivalry

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, Most Merciful.




by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

Sibling Rivalry is a common scenario in almost every home. Arguments and fights are
everyday occurrences amongst brothers and sisters – to the extent that arguments often
lead to physical fighting.

This kind of response is very much against the disposition of a noble person, let alone a Muslim.

We need to learn to implement the noble character of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam)
in our dealings with all – including siblings. It must not be that “we give as good as we get”;
rather we overlook, forgive and show to them, beautiful, dignified conduct.

If we have knowledge of Deen, then this is the setting which tests our practical expression
of that ilm (knowledge) and akhlaaq (character). We either give into nafs and Shaytaan and
show our brothers, sisters and parents that we are like cats and dogs fighting – and are closer
to being animals than humans, or we rise above the indiscretions of our family members,
adopting noble character and speech, and practicing on the ayat:

“The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal.
Repel (the evil) with that which is better (to be 
patient, forgive, etc.), then verily, he between whom
and you there was enmity, (will become) as though 
he was a close friend.”
                                                                                  [Surah Fussilaat 41: 34] 
 
Rasulullah(sallallahu alaihi wasallam) had set a beautiful and perfect precedent in teaching
and moulding his two grandsons, Hasan and Husain(radiyallahu anhum).

Rasulullah(sallallahu alaihi wasallam)taught them to respect and love each other. He taught
them that the younger of them should serve the elder, due to the elder sibling deserving
respect. …Khidmat (serving) naturally creates muhabbat(love) and how perfect a
prescription this is for all brothers and sisters, in so far as creating a peaceful and happy
environment at home. This is why we find in the lives of these two grandsons, that
Hazrat Husain (radiyallahu anhu) used to respect Hazrat Hasan(radiyallahu anhu) and
even carry out his requests willingly.

Of course, in the light of the above, the older brother or sister should not think that he or
she can just demand, dictate and nag. If we are older, we have a responsibility to set an
example, worthy of our siblings to follow. There has to be courtesy, mercy, compassion
and love for the younger siblings.A balance needs to be created – where there is humility
on both sides.SayyidinaHasan(radiyallahu anhu) showed great love and compassion for
Sayyidina Husain (radiyallahu anhu).

If either one has to advise the other with regard to something – for example, food, clothing,
room, studies, salaah, etc. then it should be said once only and politely. Thereafter, leave it
to the parents or teachers to solve the problem.

If every sibling were to emulate the grandsons of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam), then
there would be no bickering, quarreling and fighting. Home will be a haven and all parents
will be at peace – with no complaints against their children.

May Allah Ta’ala grant us all the understanding and the taufeeq of practicing.

Bringing Barakah into Our Lives - Mufti Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf

Bringing Barakah into Our Lives - Mufti Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf

Rajab Dua

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful


 










السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
Dear Readers,
We have just reached  the Month of Rajab, which is just
two months away from the month of Ramadhan,so let us
read the dua which Nabi  صلى الله عليه وسلم read on sighting
the moon of Rajab. He used to pray to Allah in the following
words :

اَللّهُمَّ بَارِك لَنَا فىِ رَجَبَ وشَعْبَان وبَلِّغْنَا رَمَضَانَ
O Allah, make the months of Rajab and
Sha'ban blessed for us, and let us reach
the month of Ramadhan (i.e. prolong our
life up to Ramadhan,so that we may
benefit from its merits and blessings)


Islamic Months Merits and Precepts
 By Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani 

When Spouses Curse ....

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.




by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

A husband complained that he was always angry with his wife, and they continuously argued.

…There are so many such cases : If it is not the husband complaining of his wife, it is the
wife complaining of her husband.

In this case, having been informed of the weaknesses of his wife, which are common to
other women as well, I said: ‘I agree with you that there are weaknesses in women.
However, there are also weaknesses in men. …Moreover, your anger is for worldly
reasons. You are cursing your wife and inviting that same curse upon yourself...’

I then explained to him: ‘When you curse your wife on her defiance, non-compliance
or her indifference to your rights, then Allah Ta’ala’s azaab[1] descends upon her. When
that punishment reaches her, she will not be the only one who will suffer. As her husband,
you too suffer. If she is afflicted with illness or meets up with some accident, the burden of
expense falls upon you, as the husband. You will have to take care of her, and will also find
difficulty in that she will not be able to see to you and the children, and the maintenance of
the home, etc. And if she has to curse you, she too will find herself in a situation of trial
and difficulty...’

There are those women who have the bad habit of cursing their husbands and children –
and generally this is due to impatience or frustration. Instead of turning to Allah Ta’ala
and making Du’aa, they utter such words, which sometimes finds acceptance in the heavens,
but becomes a source of great regret.

It is due to this tendency of cursing and being ungrateful to spouses that 
Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم directed women towards giving charity and 
seeking forgiveness.

Thus, when Allah Ta’ala punishes the husband or the child, then the wife or mother is left
lamenting her plight.

It may be that Allah Ta’ala accepts her curse, and in a fit of anger the husband divorces the
wife. He loses his wife and children and she is left in dire circumstances as a divorcee; or it
may be that Allah Ta’ala accepts the curse, and as such his entire business collapses. Then
poverty becomes the lot of not just the husband, but also the wife who cursed, and the
children. …There are so many ways that curses are Divinely accepted.

Alhamdulillah, the husband explained the above to his wife and they both agreed that
arguing and cursing was not the solution.

Arguments are the cause of great satisfaction and joy to shaytaan, whose great effort is
to destroy marriages. Arguments, in fact, indicate to shaytaan’s presence in our homes.
It is the stepping stone to enmity between husband and wife, and can easily end up with 
divorce, a broken home and many other problems.

Who  does  not want a happy  marriage?  Who does not  want  Sukoon (tranquility) in
marriage? ...  However, to achieve this, some effort has to be made. We just have to train
ourselves to adopt Hilm (tolerance) and Sabr (patience) at times, and learn to curb the
tendency to argue and fight – which is otherwise common even for the most petty reasons.

If we can all keep before us the following Hadeeth and have Yaqeen and conviction on the
words of Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم, many arguments would not even surface and there
would be peace and tranquility:  “I guarantee a house in the middle of Paradise to 
the one who forsakes argument even when he is in the right.’

[1] Azaab : punishment

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Last Ten Surahs -Mishary Rashid al-Afasy

InshaAllah a good way to learn or to correct the thajweed of the last
ten Surahs which we recite in our daily Salaah, will be specially
useful for the once who are going for hurruj ( in the path of Allah). 

The Three Golden Rules of Child Rearing

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious,the Most Merciful.





As far as the sphere of Shari'ah's influence is concerned, it is all
encompassing. It has laid bare all the beneficial and the detrimental
things of this world and the hereafter. There is not a single facet of
life which the Qur'an and Sunnah has not explained in detail or at least
in principal. whether it is cardinal beliefs or devotions, inter-related
dealings, social life or moral character, Islam fully embraces these
five branches. The pages of the Qur'an and Hadith are replete with
their teachings.

However, it is not possible to instruct young children or beginners
in the details of these teachings. In fact, it is not even appropriate
to teach them all the details at the beginning of their Qur'anic lessons.
Therefore, my humble opinion is that instead of going into lengthy
discussions, every mother should focus her attention mainly on
three things during the early stages of the child's life. Together with
their Quran'ic lessons, emphasise these three  points and cultivate
them within the children. Pinning our expectations on the mercy of
Allah Ta'ala, we hope that even if you are particular about these three
basic fundamentals only, their lives will undergo a remarkable imani
influence. This in turn will simplify practicing on the other branches
of din, InshaAllah.

The three fundamentals are :

#    Devotion to fard salaah
#    Total abstention from lies
#    The habit of serving others

(1) Devotion to the Fard Salah

Who does not know that salaah is the basic fundamental of Islam and
that it is the most important obligation from amongst all the other
obligations? The  Noble Qur'an is explicit in its declaration : ''Verily
salaah prevents shamelessness and vileness.''

Therefore, when the child, boy or girl, reaches the age of seven, be very
vigilant and ensure that they are performing their obligatory salaah. Girls
are required to perform their salaah at home whilst boys and men are
commanded to perform their salaah with the congregation. So every child
should be practically instructed about the performance of salaah. They
should be taught the surahs and other du'as of salaah. Keep a watchful eye
on them and make sure they are performing their fard salaah. Do not be
lenient in any aspect of salaah. If a child is not punctual with salaah with
jam'at (congregation), then somehow or the other get him to perform his
salaah consistently with the jam'at.

The best and most tried and tested remedy to achieve this goal is to engage
in t'alim (i.e. daily recital before all family members) of the book compiled
by Sheikhul-Hadith Hadrat Maulana Zakariyya Sahib entitled 'Fadail-e-Salaah'.
From the age of seven, ask the children to write and then memorize these
Ahadith. You may also make them compete with one another in their leisure
time. For example, you may challenge them to write out ten Ahadith and then
twenty and then thirty and so forth. Also, there are forty Ahadith on page 20.
Make your children memorize them and periodically all of you should sit
together and listen to one of them reciting these Ahadith from memory.
Reward the child who memorizes all forty Ahadith.

(2) Total abstention from lies

The second important factor is to cultivate the habit of speaking the truth at
all times and at all costs do not ever tolerate any form of falsehood.

Lying is not only a major sin but it is also a root of other evils. It is a cause
for a number of other sins. So cultivate abhorrence for lies within the children.
Develop the habit of speaking the truth at all times and ensure that they refrain
from falsehood. This will ensure that they automatically abstain from a number
of other sins as well. This is why Rasulullahصلى الله عليه وسلم declared: ''Refrain
from lies as lies leads to immorality and immorality paves the way to Hell.''

It is also for this reason that Rasulullahصلى الله عليه وسلم declared lies to be
diametrically opposed to Imaan (belief).

Imam Malikرحمة الله عليه mentions a Hadith: ''Rasulullahصلى الله عليه وسلم was 
once asked : ''Can a believer be cowardly?'' He replied: ''Yes, he can be 
cowardly.''  He was again asked: ''Can a believer be miserly?'' He replied:
''Yes, he can be miserly.''  Rasulullahصلى الله عليه وسلم was asked once again:
''Can a believer be a liar?''  He replied: ''No, a believer cannot be a liar!''

Hence, in order to make them perfect Muslims, children should be stead-
fastly restrained from all  forms of falsehood. On no account should you
yield to any form of their lies. After being found guilty of any misdemeanour,
if the child speaks the truth, whilst considering the circumstances, be a bit
lenient with him when admonishing him or forgive him altogether. However,
if he compounds his misdemeanour with lies, do not be lenient in disciplining
him. In this aspect, the parents as well as the teachers should be fully aware of
their responsibilities.

continued in another post inshaAllah

Ideal Mother
by Moulana Muhammad Hanif 'Abdul Majid



            

Naseehat by Maulana Tariq Jameel

Few very beautiful(advices) naseehat by Maulana Tariq Jameel with English
subtitles. For more of Maulana's bayans with English Sub click here

What is Tablighi Jamaat? By Sheikh Mumtaz Ul Haq

 What is Tablighi Jamaat? By Sheikh Mumtaz Ul Haq

Peace of Mind

بسم الله الرمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.



The ability to do good deeds is also
Granted by Allah

Firstly Allah asked us to do a certain act which is good for us. Then
he gave us the courage to do so. Then He made the way for us to do
that. Finally, he rewards us after we got the benefit of that act too.
This is like granting one blessing after the other.

Satanic Deception

Satan presents a deception to us that by doing a particular sin, its
stimulation will be decreased next time. But this effect is tempo-
rary only. Rather the urge will be stronger in future and out of
control too.


No sin is greater than the
Forgiveness of Allah

If a person does not ask Allah for forgiveness by thinking that his
sins are innumerous and this act wont be fruitful then his thinking
is foolish and he is being trapped by shaitan. Apparently his thinking
is like repentance but as a matter of fact, it reflects his superiority
complex that he has caused such a big damage to the system of Allah
which cant be forgiven by Allah now. Remember that even if the whole
world gets disobedient to Allah, it cant cause any damage to Him or
stop Him from forgiveness.

Repentance of Sin is Essential

If we could observe how vast is forgiveness of Allah, we would never
had been ashamed of thinking our sins as too many to be forgiven by
Allah. Such an ashamed feeling urges us not to be repentful over our
sins, this urge should be avoided as the sins are not greater than the
forgiveness of Allah but enough to mislead us. Example is that of
100 gms of Copper Sulphate or poison which is not greater than a
quintal of its antidote but it is still enough for our stomach.

The Belief which forbids from asking
Allah for Forgiveness, is False

A Mumin (true Muslim) is always worried about his sins unlikely to
a non-Muslim who thinks it like as small as a fly which can be tackled
easily. This means that the sin should not be considered too small to
be ignored over and it should not be taken too big to prevent asking
Allah for forgiveness. So repentance is of the real importance and
not the belief of considering it small or big sin.   


Whose Company should one adapt

A person having three qualities should be considered worthy of
(keeping the company of Firstly, he should be a Faqeeh (knowing
the ins and outs of fundamentals of religion). Secondly, he should
be a Muhaddis (the one who is having knowledge of Hadith). Thirdly,
he should be a Sufi (having spiritual know how).

How to Develop the Right kind of Love

The easy way to do this is to adapt the company of those who love
Allah. It will yield the effects like a magical stone that turns a piece
of iron into gold when touched.

Forgiveness of Allah is waiting for
opportunities

Firstly we have to muster up a bit courage ourselves then Allah
completes it Himself. Example is that of a kid which staggers
and falls after walking a few steps.

Peace of Mind
A Summary of Sayings of
Hazarat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanviرحمة الله عليه

A Blissful Life - Maulana Sulaiman Moola

 Allah Ta'ala has promised a 'blissful life' for those servants who
 practice righteous deeds. Allah says in Surah An-Nahl:

{And for that male or female who does good and is a Mu'min,
 We will certainly grant them a blissful life (in this world)}.

The question arises; what is the defenition of a 'blissful life?'
 Shaykh Sulaiman Moola explains....

Children and Toys by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

When a child wants a toy which is of an animate object or a musical
instrument, then gently explain to the child that Allah Ta’ala is displeased
with such a toy, and that the presence of such toys in our homes deprive us
of the presence of the Malaa`ikah (angels) of Rahmah (Mercy).

After having explained this, buy something better, if it is within one’s means,
of the ‘mubaah’ (permissible) category – without being extravagant and wasteful.
Considering the fact that most children have all kinds of animate, musical and
haraam (forbidden) toys, do not let the child feel as if he or she is being deprived
of play. …Make the child happy with Halaal so that he or she will grow up 
loving the beautiful Deen (religion) of Islam.
 
The same applies to children’s clothing and accessories to be found on the market;
many of which have cartoon characters, etc. which would captivate and charm little
children; but which the Shariah[1] does not permit.

Muslims today consider these restrictions as trivial and irrelevant whereas there is
great wisdom in all the ‘Muharramaat’ (prohibitions) of Islam.

In actual fact, one of the reasons why children have nightmares is due to the
photographs that we bring into our homes, the cartoons and other programmes
we allow and encourage them to view, or such clothing and toys that are impermissible…
Sometimes the room walls are plastered with cartoon characters, huge teddy bears,
dolls and stuffed animals are all around the room, which result in frightful dreams.

…There are angels that are deputed to look after our children, but these angels do
not enter that home where there are pictures of animate objects. This deprives our
children of the presence and protection of the angels, who also play with babies.

Rasulullah (1) said : “Angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog or a picture.”
(Sahih Muslim)
 
We claim that we are Believers in Allah Ta’ala and His Rasul (1).
If the claim is true and sincere, then it is not acceptable that as 
Believers in Allah Ta’ala and His Rasul (1), we debate, argue or
reject what are clear injunctions of Shariah. The person who does
so, has clearly strayed from the right path…
 
 “It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has
 been decided by Allah and His Apostle, to have any option about
 their decision : If anyone disobeys Allah and His Apostle, 
 he is indeed on a clearly wrong path.”
[Surah Ahzaab 33 : 36]

 Allah Ta’ala mentions the response of His sincere servants: 
“The answer of the Believers, when summoned to Allah and His Rasul,
 in order that he may judge between them is not other than this :
 They say, ‘We hear and we obey.’ It is such as these who will attain felicity.

It is such as these who obey Allah and His Rasul, and fear Allah and
do right, that will win (in the end).”
[Surah Noor 24 : 51 / 52]

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[1] Shariah : Code of Islamic Law

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Show Our Children The Road To The Masjid-They Will Connect To Allah!

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم

In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 


 
Show Our Children The Road To The Masjid-
They Will Connect To Allah!

Thought provoking points by Mufti Husain Kadodia (Hafidhahullah) in his Jumu’ah discourse:


Parents generally worry about the worldly well being of their children and make great sacrifices for their worldly comfort. The actual concern of parents should be about their death with Iman and their wellbeing in the hereafter and to nuture them accordingly.


Umar bin Abdul Aziz Rahimahullah was a great Khalifa of the time. He left a very small estate for his children. When he was asked about the worldly comforts of his children, he said “I thought my children to obey Allah.” Over a period of time, the very children of Umar bin Abdul Aziz became very wealthy and used to spend large amounts of money in the path of Allah. On the contrary, Hisham bin Abdul Malik Rahimahullah who was also a Khalifa left a large estate for his children. Over a period of time his children became paupers and people saw them begging on the streets of Baghdad.


When we teach our children Allah consciousness, that will be useful to them in this world and the hereafter. If we give our children all the comforts of the world besides Deen, the very comforts will be a means of their destruction in this world and the hereafter. It is holiday time. Everyone is gone on relaxed mode and tend to drop their guards. We know the fitna of drugs, drinking, and intermingling in the outside world.


It is our responsibility to guard our children and save them from falling prey to the evils around us. Show our children the road to the Masjid- they will connect to Allah.

- Points noted by Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Hafidhahullah)

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