بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Parents generally give orders and instructions that are in the best interest
of children. It is thus the duty of children to respect and obey their parents
in all matters. They should not question this authority or follow their own
desires in defiance of their parents. This is, of course, overruled if the parents
request the child to perform an act of disobedience to Allah.
It is the obligation of parents to protect their children from harm. If a child
is tempted to act in a harmful way, it is the duty of parents to prevent him
or her from that behavior. If necessary, they may resort to advising, rebuking,
or reprimanding. The Child should not reply rudely or argue with the parents.
Parental advice should should be listened to and acted upon, even if it is against
the child's wishes.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الاِْنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيهِ اِحْسَاناً حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهاً وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهاً وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصاَلُهُ ثَلاَثُونَ شَهْراً
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلا تَعْبُدُوا إلآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ اِحْساَناً إَِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلاهُمَا فَلا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُماَ قَوْلا كَرِيمًا
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be
dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life,
These Qur'anic verses urge children to be soft-spoken to parents and to show
them respect and kindness. They must not forget the favours and sacrifices of
their parents, but rather repay them with gentle words and kindness.This entails
patience, compassion, gratitude, and humility.
Children are required to help their parents in household chores and other res-
ponsibilities as they are able. They may, for example, assist with the care of
younger siblings. As parents age, help may be offered in other areas as well.
Grown-up children must repay their parents by caring for them in their old age.
This involves looking after their physical and financial needs, as well as psycho-
logical and companionship needs. As their parents looked after them during
their stage of weakness, so must children reciprocate by taking care of their
parents during the weakness of old age. This must be realized with equity,
generosity, and ihsan.
Nurturing Eeman in Children
Dr. Aisha Hamdan
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
The child also has duties that become the rights
of the parents :
* The right to be respected and obeyed
Parents generally give orders and instructions that are in the best interest
of children. It is thus the duty of children to respect and obey their parents
in all matters. They should not question this authority or follow their own
desires in defiance of their parents. This is, of course, overruled if the parents
request the child to perform an act of disobedience to Allah.
* The right to reprimand and rebuke
It is the obligation of parents to protect their children from harm. If a child
is tempted to act in a harmful way, it is the duty of parents to prevent him
or her from that behavior. If necessary, they may resort to advising, rebuking,
or reprimanding. The Child should not reply rudely or argue with the parents.
Parental advice should should be listened to and acted upon, even if it is against
the child's wishes.
* The right to kind words and good behaviour
وَوَصَّيْنَا الاِْنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيهِ اِحْسَاناً حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهاً وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهاً وَحَمْلُهُ وَفِصاَلُهُ ثَلاَثُونَ شَهْراً
And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His
mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship,
and the bearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty months, ....
( 46 : 15)
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلا تَعْبُدُوا إلآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ اِحْساَناً إَِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلاهُمَا فَلا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّ وَلا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُماَ قَوْلا كَرِيمًا
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be
dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life,
say not to them ( 'uff ') a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them
in terms of honour. (17 : 23)
These Qur'anic verses urge children to be soft-spoken to parents and to show
them respect and kindness. They must not forget the favours and sacrifices of
their parents, but rather repay them with gentle words and kindness.This entails
patience, compassion, gratitude, and humility.
* The right to be helped
Children are required to help their parents in household chores and other res-
ponsibilities as they are able. They may, for example, assist with the care of
younger siblings. As parents age, help may be offered in other areas as well.
* The right to be looked after
Grown-up children must repay their parents by caring for them in their old age.
This involves looking after their physical and financial needs, as well as psycho-
logical and companionship needs. As their parents looked after them during
their stage of weakness, so must children reciprocate by taking care of their
parents during the weakness of old age. This must be realized with equity,
generosity, and ihsan.
Nurturing Eeman in Children
Dr. Aisha Hamdan
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