بسم الله الرØمان الرØيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
1. Do not ever scare the child with jinns, ghosts etc.
This is a very appalling habit as it develops anxiety
and fear in their hearts. Fear is the root of other
calamitous problems. Always inculcate fearlessness
and bravery within them.
2. Allocate a fixed time for the children's meals.
This would contribute to their good health and it
also teaches them the importance of punctuality.
3. Keep them clean and tidy at all times. Bath them
daily in summer. In winter, always bath them with hot
(warm) water. This would ensure good health. Always
encourage them to adopt good personal hygiene as good
health depends upon personal hygiene.
4. Avoid excessive adornment. In the case of a boy, do
not allow his hair to grow very long. Apply Surmah
( kohl) to their eyes every night.
5. Foster within them the habit of giving food, clothing,
money etc. to the poor with their own hands, as this
would promote generosity.
6. Restrain them from bellowing or talking loudly.
Explain to them kindly that screaming and talking
is disrespectful and a person who does that is
dubbed an ''ox''.
7. Restrain your children from joining other children
who have repulsive habits, children who are indifferent
to their studies and children who are spendthrifts. Do
not allow them to play or linger about with them.
8. Develop an aversion in the children for lies, anger,
malice, greed, verbal abuse, backbiting, deception and
other such vices. If you detect any such vices in them,
caution them and if they fail to take heed, mete out some
appropriate form of punishment. If you rigidly stick to
love and affection, you will surely regret it later on.
9. Once the child becomes a bit perceptive, develop the
habit in him of eating with his own hands. Teach him how
to wash his hands after meals. Develop the habit of eating
with the hands (instead of eating with a spoon etc.).
Inculcate the habit of eating less as this would prevent
greed and illness.
10. Be extremely fastidious about keeping their hands,
feet and faces clean at all times. Wash them the moment
they are soiled.
11. Do not allow the child to go to the market place all
alone. Somebody should accompany him. Whilst playing,
do not allow the child to jump and leap excessively. Do
not allow him to play on high places. Allow him to play
with children of decent families. Prevent them from evil
company. When he accompanies you to the market place,
do not linger around longer than necessary. Provide an
appropriate answer to each one of his questions and teach
him the various etiquette. Continue preventing him from
useless and futile speech.
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
1. Do not ever scare the child with jinns, ghosts etc.
This is a very appalling habit as it develops anxiety
and fear in their hearts. Fear is the root of other
calamitous problems. Always inculcate fearlessness
and bravery within them.
2. Allocate a fixed time for the children's meals.
This would contribute to their good health and it
also teaches them the importance of punctuality.
3. Keep them clean and tidy at all times. Bath them
daily in summer. In winter, always bath them with hot
(warm) water. This would ensure good health. Always
encourage them to adopt good personal hygiene as good
health depends upon personal hygiene.
4. Avoid excessive adornment. In the case of a boy, do
not allow his hair to grow very long. Apply Surmah
( kohl) to their eyes every night.
5. Foster within them the habit of giving food, clothing,
money etc. to the poor with their own hands, as this
would promote generosity.
6. Restrain them from bellowing or talking loudly.
Explain to them kindly that screaming and talking
is disrespectful and a person who does that is
dubbed an ''ox''.
7. Restrain your children from joining other children
who have repulsive habits, children who are indifferent
to their studies and children who are spendthrifts. Do
not allow them to play or linger about with them.
8. Develop an aversion in the children for lies, anger,
malice, greed, verbal abuse, backbiting, deception and
other such vices. If you detect any such vices in them,
caution them and if they fail to take heed, mete out some
appropriate form of punishment. If you rigidly stick to
love and affection, you will surely regret it later on.
9. Once the child becomes a bit perceptive, develop the
habit in him of eating with his own hands. Teach him how
to wash his hands after meals. Develop the habit of eating
with the hands (instead of eating with a spoon etc.).
Inculcate the habit of eating less as this would prevent
greed and illness.
10. Be extremely fastidious about keeping their hands,
feet and faces clean at all times. Wash them the moment
they are soiled.
11. Do not allow the child to go to the market place all
alone. Somebody should accompany him. Whilst playing,
do not allow the child to jump and leap excessively. Do
not allow him to play on high places. Allow him to play
with children of decent families. Prevent them from evil
company. When he accompanies you to the market place,
do not linger around longer than necessary. Provide an
appropriate answer to each one of his questions and teach
him the various etiquette. Continue preventing him from
useless and futile speech.
Ideal Mother by
Maulana Muhammad Hanif 'Abdul Majid
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