Sibling Rivalry

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, Most Merciful.




by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

Sibling Rivalry is a common scenario in almost every home. Arguments and fights are
everyday occurrences amongst brothers and sisters – to the extent that arguments often
lead to physical fighting.

This kind of response is very much against the disposition of a noble person, let alone a Muslim.

We need to learn to implement the noble character of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam)
in our dealings with all – including siblings. It must not be that “we give as good as we get”;
rather we overlook, forgive and show to them, beautiful, dignified conduct.

If we have knowledge of Deen, then this is the setting which tests our practical expression
of that ilm (knowledge) and akhlaaq (character). We either give into nafs and Shaytaan and
show our brothers, sisters and parents that we are like cats and dogs fighting – and are closer
to being animals than humans, or we rise above the indiscretions of our family members,
adopting noble character and speech, and practicing on the ayat:

“The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal.
Repel (the evil) with that which is better (to be 
patient, forgive, etc.), then verily, he between whom
and you there was enmity, (will become) as though 
he was a close friend.”
                                                                                  [Surah Fussilaat 41: 34] 
 
Rasulullah(sallallahu alaihi wasallam) had set a beautiful and perfect precedent in teaching
and moulding his two grandsons, Hasan and Husain(radiyallahu anhum).

Rasulullah(sallallahu alaihi wasallam)taught them to respect and love each other. He taught
them that the younger of them should serve the elder, due to the elder sibling deserving
respect. …Khidmat (serving) naturally creates muhabbat(love) and how perfect a
prescription this is for all brothers and sisters, in so far as creating a peaceful and happy
environment at home. This is why we find in the lives of these two grandsons, that
Hazrat Husain (radiyallahu anhu) used to respect Hazrat Hasan(radiyallahu anhu) and
even carry out his requests willingly.

Of course, in the light of the above, the older brother or sister should not think that he or
she can just demand, dictate and nag. If we are older, we have a responsibility to set an
example, worthy of our siblings to follow. There has to be courtesy, mercy, compassion
and love for the younger siblings.A balance needs to be created – where there is humility
on both sides.SayyidinaHasan(radiyallahu anhu) showed great love and compassion for
Sayyidina Husain (radiyallahu anhu).

If either one has to advise the other with regard to something – for example, food, clothing,
room, studies, salaah, etc. then it should be said once only and politely. Thereafter, leave it
to the parents or teachers to solve the problem.

If every sibling were to emulate the grandsons of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam), then
there would be no bickering, quarreling and fighting. Home will be a haven and all parents
will be at peace – with no complaints against their children.

May Allah Ta’ala grant us all the understanding and the taufeeq of practicing.

Bringing Barakah into Our Lives - Mufti Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf

Bringing Barakah into Our Lives - Mufti Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf

Rajab Dua

 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful


 










السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
Dear Readers,
We have just reached  the Month of Rajab, which is just
two months away from the month of Ramadhan,so let us
read the dua which Nabi  صلى الله عليه وسلم read on sighting
the moon of Rajab. He used to pray to Allah in the following
words :

اَللّهُمَّ بَارِك لَنَا فىِ رَجَبَ وشَعْبَان وبَلِّغْنَا رَمَضَانَ
O Allah, make the months of Rajab and
Sha'ban blessed for us, and let us reach
the month of Ramadhan (i.e. prolong our
life up to Ramadhan,so that we may
benefit from its merits and blessings)


Islamic Months Merits and Precepts
 By Mufti Muhammad Taqi Usmani 

When Spouses Curse ....

بسم الله الرحمان الرحيم
In the Name of Allah,
the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.




by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

A husband complained that he was always angry with his wife, and they continuously argued.

…There are so many such cases : If it is not the husband complaining of his wife, it is the
wife complaining of her husband.

In this case, having been informed of the weaknesses of his wife, which are common to
other women as well, I said: ‘I agree with you that there are weaknesses in women.
However, there are also weaknesses in men. …Moreover, your anger is for worldly
reasons. You are cursing your wife and inviting that same curse upon yourself...’

I then explained to him: ‘When you curse your wife on her defiance, non-compliance
or her indifference to your rights, then Allah Ta’ala’s azaab[1] descends upon her. When
that punishment reaches her, she will not be the only one who will suffer. As her husband,
you too suffer. If she is afflicted with illness or meets up with some accident, the burden of
expense falls upon you, as the husband. You will have to take care of her, and will also find
difficulty in that she will not be able to see to you and the children, and the maintenance of
the home, etc. And if she has to curse you, she too will find herself in a situation of trial
and difficulty...’

There are those women who have the bad habit of cursing their husbands and children –
and generally this is due to impatience or frustration. Instead of turning to Allah Ta’ala
and making Du’aa, they utter such words, which sometimes finds acceptance in the heavens,
but becomes a source of great regret.

It is due to this tendency of cursing and being ungrateful to spouses that 
Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم directed women towards giving charity and 
seeking forgiveness.

Thus, when Allah Ta’ala punishes the husband or the child, then the wife or mother is left
lamenting her plight.

It may be that Allah Ta’ala accepts her curse, and in a fit of anger the husband divorces the
wife. He loses his wife and children and she is left in dire circumstances as a divorcee; or it
may be that Allah Ta’ala accepts the curse, and as such his entire business collapses. Then
poverty becomes the lot of not just the husband, but also the wife who cursed, and the
children. …There are so many ways that curses are Divinely accepted.

Alhamdulillah, the husband explained the above to his wife and they both agreed that
arguing and cursing was not the solution.

Arguments are the cause of great satisfaction and joy to shaytaan, whose great effort is
to destroy marriages. Arguments, in fact, indicate to shaytaan’s presence in our homes.
It is the stepping stone to enmity between husband and wife, and can easily end up with 
divorce, a broken home and many other problems.

Who  does  not want a happy  marriage?  Who does not  want  Sukoon (tranquility) in
marriage? ...  However, to achieve this, some effort has to be made. We just have to train
ourselves to adopt Hilm (tolerance) and Sabr (patience) at times, and learn to curb the
tendency to argue and fight – which is otherwise common even for the most petty reasons.

If we can all keep before us the following Hadeeth and have Yaqeen and conviction on the
words of Rasulullah صلى الله عليه وسلم, many arguments would not even surface and there
would be peace and tranquility:  “I guarantee a house in the middle of Paradise to 
the one who forsakes argument even when he is in the right.’

[1] Azaab : punishment

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